For every parent,the first line while describing their child is “Iska dimag bhot tezz hai! He is having enormous potential!!!”. No matter how dull or lazy their child is, somewhere it’s a blind belief that their son/daughter is the best one. The power of that belief is so much it turns that same dull guy into a bright one, why???? Because the myth becomes reality if you put efforts to make it one with confidence and hardwork.
But as we go out of our homes, for graduation or for any other reason,out of our comfort zone we tend to doubt our own potential. But don’t loose your hope because here’s the key for how to fight that situation.
1. Judge:
Judge, not others but yourself. Look at yourself from the eyes of others,and by others, I don’t mean someone who know you,I mean someone who don’t know you but your deeds and displays. And be as just as possible in that. If you are not working hard,be it because of any reason,accept the FACT that you are not working hard enough. You’ll never be able to improve yourself untill you get to know that there is a scope of improvement. And there is always some scope of improvement.
2. Criticise:
Again,not others but yourself. There is a thin line between criticising and judging. In judging you have to look at yourself but in criticism you have to judge yourself and make a specific comment or decision(mostly bothering or provoking) which will surely fall in your favour if you know how to use your aggression in right direction. And the best way for this according to me is to compare yourself with “perfect version” of yourself. “Kaash main aisa hota” , that “kaash” version of yourself and we all are good in imagining things so it won’t be a tough task :p
3. Change:
Done with judging and criticising, now is the time for a verdict. Punishments or hardships are actually way to make a person better than he was before. Don’t get too rough but make changes slowly, adapt and implement. Change is the law of nature,follow that law. Changes are good,change is constant,and even if your change is not appropriate, you’ll get experience.
4. Gain Control:
Chain that wild dog inside you. Learn to command your nerve. Like an ascetic, develop a lifestyle where you can control your impulse and maintain discipline,there is no need to be too much into that but if you’ll try for 100% you’ll reach 60 or something… Just like I get. So,try your best to get over your bad habits and addictions if any.
5. Love Yourself:
Easiest yet the toughest one to follow. Everything is OK unless your guilt starts dominating your confidence. But to be specific, like a parent,love yourself with all your faults and mistakes,with courage to overcome failures. A never ending love and affection for oneself,because if you yourself can’t do this then don’t expect anyone ever would.
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With all these points stated I tried my best to make it short and simple, and I hope it would be helpful to all of you reading this. You’ll always face some negative reviews and confidence breaking comments but “log kya sochte hain ye bhi tum hi sochoge….to log kya sochenge??” . So do listen to others, but never take any negative remark too seriously if it’s baseless.
Taking a bow here, JAI HIND 🙂
By Adil Ahmad Sindhi
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